Fear is Your Friend…Until It’s Not
Very few of us will cop to fear as part of our repertoire of emotions. Not to be gender-biased here, but I think it’s safe to say that many men don’t even realize the word “fear” is in their vocabulary.
Fear is part of our lives and don’t let anybody try and take it away from you. You might want to let them “borrow” it, but make sure they bring it back because it can be a very good friend. We know it keeps us from sticking our fingers in moving fans but it also keeps us from dating men we see online that have photos of themselves without their shirts.
The key to utilizing the gift of fear and keeping it on a short leash so it doesn’t control you is to learn to respect it. When fear taps you on the shoulder or gives you whiplash when you are making a courageous move like going back online to see if there are some men with their shirts on, that’s the time to tell it to take a hike!
When you feel the fear, stop for a moment or maybe longer and ask yourself if it is rational. If you are going to a long-awaited job interview and you feel it, that’s normal and can serve as a motivator to do your best. If, however, in preparing for the interview you begin to hear voices…not the kind you hear when you forget to take your meds… that say, “You know, you are an idiot if you think you are going to get this job.” That’s when fear is not a friend.
Hang on to your fear, use it as a blanket when you aren’t ready to dive into something…yet. Listen for your courageous voice, and when you hear it, let fear go and take one step at a time toward your goal or the dream that’s just waiting for you right around the corner.